{"id":45,"date":"2008-10-21T14:01:46","date_gmt":"2008-10-21T14:01:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/harpa.blogg.is\/2008-10-21\/tynda-barnid\/"},"modified":"2008-10-21T14:01:46","modified_gmt":"2008-10-21T14:01:46","slug":"tynda-barnid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/2008\/10\/21\/tynda-barnid\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u00fdnda barni\u00f0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Me\u00f0an \u00e9g las gegnum Konuna \u00ed k\u00f6fl\u00f3tta st\u00f3lnum<\/em> var m\u00e9r hugsa\u00f0 til \u00feess hva\u00f0 g\u00e6ti \u00e1tt vi\u00f0 mig og hva\u00f0 ekki.\u00a0 Mj\u00f6g margt \u00e1tti vi\u00f0, t.d. svissi\u00f0 \u00far klass\u00edskum verkum \u00ed poppl\u00f6g, \u00feess vegna ABBA. B\u00e1\u00f0ar hafa \u00feessar konur, s\u00fa \u00ed st\u00f3lnum og \u00e9g, pr\u00f3fa\u00f0 a\u00f0fer\u00f0ina “drekkja sorgum s\u00ednum”, \u00e1rangurslaust. (Ath. a\u00f0 \u00feetta er bara a\u00f0fer\u00f0 en af \u00fev\u00ed sorgirnar geta synt \u00fe\u00e1 skilar h\u00fan aldrei neinum \u00e1rangri.) En \u00fear sem m\u00e9r fannst Konan \u00ed k\u00f6fl\u00f3tta st\u00f3lnum<\/em> vera t\u00edmam\u00f3taverk fyrir 10 \u00e1rum \u00fe\u00e1 fannst m\u00e9r h\u00fan n\u00fa vera g\u00f6mul klisja, a\u00f0 v\u00edsu \u00e1g\u00e6tlega st\u00edlu\u00f0 klisja en klisja samt.<\/p>\n

\u00c9g gat engan veginn samsama\u00f0 mig \u00fev\u00ed upp\u00e1t\u00e6ki konunnar a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta sj\u00e1 fyrir m\u00e9r \u00ed \u00e1ratug me\u00f0an \u00e9g eyddi \u00f6llum eigin launum \u00ed s\u00e1lk\u00f6nnun. L\u00e9ti \u00e9g sj\u00e1 svona fyrir m\u00e9r t\u00e6ki \u00e9g jafnframt upp b\u00farku, af sk\u00f6mm. Au\u00f0vita\u00f0 veit \u00e9g \u00ed st\u00f3rum dr\u00e1ttum \u00fat \u00e1 hva\u00f0 svona s\u00e1lk\u00f6nnun gengur, las a\u00f0 mig minnir \u00e6vis\u00f6gu s\u00e1lk\u00f6nnu\u00f0ar konunnar um s\u00f6mu j\u00f3l og vi\u00f0 sem h\u00f6fum gengi\u00f0 gegnum barnab\u00f3kmenntak\u00fars \u00ed H\u00cd erum nokk verseru\u00f0 \u00ed Freud! (Aftur \u00e1 m\u00f3ti l\u00e6rir ma\u00f0ur vo\u00f0alega l\u00edti\u00f0 um b\u00f6rn e\u00f0a \u00feeirra upp\u00e1haldsb\u00e6kur \u00ed svona k\u00farsi.\u00a0 Svolei\u00f0is l\u00e6rist l\u00edka best “hands on”!)<\/p>\n

Mestan part virtist me\u00f0fer\u00f0in byggjast \u00e1 einhverju svipu\u00f0u og spor AA (m\u00ednus kristilegheit) og svol\u00edti\u00f0 a\u00f0 greina l\u00edf konunnar \u00ed t\u00edmabil, k\u00f6llu\u00f0 fasar, sem minntu soldi\u00f0 \u00e1 gamla tr\u00fa \u00e1 tungli\u00f0 og t\u00ed\u00f0ir og \u00feess h\u00e1ttar. Til a\u00f0 enda \u00feessa umfj\u00f6llun um konuna \u00ed k\u00f6fl\u00f3tta st\u00f3lnum sta\u00f0h\u00e6fi \u00e9g a\u00f0 h\u00fan\u00a0hef\u00f0i veri\u00f0 nokk betur sett inni \u00e1 ge\u00f0deild\u00a0prufandi \u00fer\u00edhyrningslyf og talandi vi\u00f0 einhvern me\u00f0 f\u00e6tur\u00a0\u00e1 j\u00f6r\u00f0u, sem ekki v\u00f6kvar bl\u00f3min \u00ed\u00a0ge\u00f0l\u00e6knist\u00edmanum.<\/p>\n

\u00deessi b\u00f3k\u00a0kom a\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0um notum fyrir mig \u00fev\u00ed \u00e9g f\u00f3r a\u00f0 hugsa og rifja upp og reyna a\u00f0 muna hven\u00e6r\u00a0\u00e9g hef\u00f0i or\u00f0i\u00f0 ga-ga. Mj\u00f6g lengi\u00a0h\u00e9lt \u00e9g a\u00f0\u00a0sj\u00fakd\u00f3murinn hef\u00f0i vakna\u00f0 \u00feegar vi\u00f0 fluttum su\u00f0ur og \u00e9g var 11 \u00e1ra. \u00dea\u00f0 er erfitt a\u00f0 flytja a\u00f0 nor\u00f0an \u00fat af minnim\u00e1ttarkennd\u00a0Sunnlendinga \u00feegar kemur a\u00f0\u00a0frambur\u00f0i og hreim. En \u00e9g held a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 ekki einn s\u00e9rstakur trigger (enda hef \u00e9g ekki tr\u00fa \u00e1\u00a0a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfi\u00f0 mitt hafi “brotna\u00f0 sundur” \u00e1 tilteknum\u00a0t\u00edmapunkti … og\u00a0\u00e9g svo keyrt \u00e1\u00a0\u00a0undirvitund og yfirsj\u00e1lfi \u00fea\u00f0 sem eftir var).\u00a0Sennilega er myndin til h\u00e6gri tekin hausti\u00f0 1970 og \u00e9g dau\u00f0vorkenni st\u00falkubarninu a\u00f0 \u00feurfa a\u00f0 ganga me\u00f0 hall\u00e6rist\u00edkarspena sem ger\u00f0u \u00fatst\u00e6\u00f0u eyrun enn \u00fatst\u00e6\u00f0ari og h\u00e1ri\u00f0 er svo \u00feunnt og l\u00e6pulegt a\u00f0 anna\u00f0 hvort er \u00fea\u00f0 aldrei \u00fevegi\u00f0 e\u00f0a st\u00falkan \u00fej\u00e1ist af n\u00e6ringarskorti.\u00a0\u00c1 h\u00fan\u00a0enn\u00fe\u00e1 bara eina peysu?<\/p>\n

\u00c9g held hins vegar a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi veri\u00f0 or\u00f0in talsvert veik 10 – 11\u00a0\u00e1ra g\u00f6mul.\u00a0 \u00c9g var einr\u00e6n, vildi helst sitja \u00fat\u00ed horni og lesa og loka heiminn \u00feannig af.\u00a0 \u00dea\u00f0 hef\u00f0i sj\u00e1lfsagt virka\u00f0 ef barnungir foreldrar m\u00ednir hef\u00f0u ekki haft \u00fe\u00e1 sko\u00f0un a\u00f0 lestur v\u00e6ri \u00f3holl i\u00f0ja \u00ed \u00f3h\u00f3fi.\u00a0 Af \u00feessu l\u00e6r\u00f0i \u00e9g a\u00f0 fela b\u00e6kur (haf\u00f0i lykil a\u00f0 lestrarf\u00e9laginu fyrir nor\u00f0an og las n\u00e1nast allar b\u00e6kurnar \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed) og vissi um lei\u00f0 og \u00e9g heyr\u00f0i klisjuna “B\u00f6rn barna eru g\u00e6fub\u00f6rn” (Organistinn \u00ed At\u00f3mst\u00f6\u00f0inni) a\u00f0 \u00feessi klisja v\u00e6ri algert kjaft\u00e6\u00f0i og \u00ed rauninni\u00a0 ranghermi!<\/p>\n

\u00c9g man eftir ofbo\u00f0slegum kv\u00ed\u00f0ak\u00f6stum sem voru afgreidd me\u00f0 “krakkinn er myrkf\u00e6linn”!\u00a0 Enda satt a\u00f0 \u00e9g var skelfingu lostin af tilhugsuninni um Gr\u00fdlu og \u00edslenskar \u00fej\u00f3\u00f0s\u00f6gur \u00fea\u00f0an \u00ed fr\u00e1! \u00c9g man eftir a\u00f0 hafa legi\u00f0 \u00ed r\u00faminu fast\u00a0upp vi\u00f0 vegginn og a\u00f0 hafa \u00e1tt \u00ed mestu vandr\u00e6\u00f0um me\u00f0 a\u00f0 n\u00e1 andanum – hjarta\u00f0 komi\u00f0 upp kok.<\/p>\n

Einhvern t\u00edma leit \u00e1 mig l\u00e6knir, \u00e1 Raufarh\u00f6fn.\u00a0 \u00c9g hugsa a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi veri\u00f0 svona 6 – 7 \u00e1ra g\u00f6mul. \u00de\u00e1 h\u00e6tti m\u00e9r til a\u00f0 f\u00e1 mikla verki \u00ed brj\u00f3sthol sem leiddu ni\u00f0ur \u00ed handlegg. \u00deessi l\u00e6knir var ein af mi\u00f0aldra fyllibyttunum sem voru sendar \u00fearna nor\u00f0ur \u00ed sukki\u00f0 (s\u00edldar- e\u00f0a s\u00edldarleysis). \u00dearna fyrir nor\u00f0an var \u00feessi l\u00e6knis\u00fdpa alltaf afs\u00f6ku\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feeir v\u00e6ru a.m.k. g\u00f3\u00f0ir handverksmenn \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00feeir v\u00e6ru ansi oft fullir. \u00deessi l\u00e6knir greindi mig m\u00f3\u00f0ursj\u00faka og gott ef \u00e9g \u00e1tti ekki a\u00f0 taka l\u00fdsi. Hann hlusta\u00f0i \u00fe\u00f3 eftir hvort \u00e9g v\u00e6ri hjartveik og \u00e9g tel honum \u00fea\u00f0 til tekna.<\/p>\n

N\u00fana, b\u00fain a\u00f0 vera fullor\u00f0in og ge\u00f0veik \u00ed \u00e1ratug s\u00e9 \u00e9g \u00ed hendi m\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00feessi “millirifjagigt”, hjartsl\u00e1ttur og andnau\u00f0 voru algengustu birtingarform kv\u00ed\u00f0a. \u00dea\u00f0 sem hef\u00f0i gert m\u00e9r gott var umm\u00f6nnun\u00a0 og\u00a0 sam\u00fa\u00f0 – ekki nor\u00f0ur\u00feingeysk pr\u00f3t\u00f3t\u00fdpa af “uppeldi”, svo ekki s\u00e9 minnst \u00e1 almennilegan l\u00e6kni sem h\u00e9ngi ekki \u00e1 hnefanum milli t\u00fara.<\/p>\n

\u00c9g veit a\u00f0 \u00e9g f\u00f3r \u00ed fyrsta sinn \u00e1 \u00e6vinni til tannl\u00e6knis h\u00e9r \u00e1 Akranesi. Sj\u00e1lfsagt hefur \u00fea\u00f0 veri\u00f0 tengt flutningunum su\u00f0ur. \u00c9g man a\u00f0 \u00e9g f\u00f3r til hans nokkra daga \u00ed r\u00f6\u00f0 – veit a\u00f0 gert var vi\u00f0 f\u00e6lu af t\u00f6nnum og skemmdar tennur rifnar \u00far. En \u00feessi dv\u00f6l hj\u00e1 tannl\u00e6kninum er \u00ed algeru blakk\u00e1t!\u00a0 Hvernig m\u00e1 anna\u00f0 vera?\u00a0 Hann var fr\u00e6gur fyrir fantat\u00f6k. Alla \u00e6vi hef \u00e9g veri\u00f0 sk\u00edthr\u00e6dd vi\u00f0 tannl\u00e6kna, lyktin \u00e1 stofunni er n\u00f3g til a\u00f0 skelfingin geri var vi\u00f0 sig. Hins vegar hef haft \u00e9g pr\u00edma tannl\u00e6kni \u00e1rum saman sem er svo elskulegur a\u00f0 deyfa mig upp a\u00f0 augum \u00e1\u00f0ur en hann svo miki\u00f0 sem sko\u00f0ar tennurnar ; )<\/p>\n

\u00c9g get au\u00f0vita\u00f0 haldi\u00f0 \u00e1fram og \u00e1fram … um svefns\u00fdkina sem greip mig 13 \u00e1ra og f\u00e9lagsf\u00e6lnina upp \u00far \u00fev\u00ed og alltaf hreint samb\u00fa\u00f0ina vi\u00f0 helv. kv\u00ed\u00f0ann, uns \u00e9g fatta\u00f0i a\u00f0 hann m\u00e6tti deyfa me\u00f0 brenniv\u00edni og svo \u00f6ll s\u00fa sorgarsaga upp \u00far \u00fev\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Nei, \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00e9g er a\u00f0 velta fyrir m\u00e9r er hvort \u00e6ttgengur kv\u00ed\u00f0i (jafnvel \u00feunglyndi l\u00edka) geti gert vart vi\u00f0 sig mj\u00f6g snemma \u00e1 barnsaldri. Og ef svo er hvernig m\u00e1 l\u00e6kna \/ laga hann? \u00c9g sta\u00f0h\u00e6fi a\u00f0 lestur Mjallhv\u00edtar e\u00f0a Gilitruttar e\u00f0a einhvers annars \u00e6vint\u00fdris hef\u00f0i ekki virka\u00f0 h\u00e6tis h\u00f3t til l\u00e6kningar, hva\u00f0 sem Bettelheim segir og sn\u00fdtir \u00fat \u00far Freud.<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 sem \u00e9g \u00e6tla a\u00f0 gera er a\u00f0 n\u00fdta m\u00e9r trikk \u00far FBA<\/em> (Fullor\u00f0in b\u00f6rn alk\u00f3h\u00f3lista) og reyna a\u00f0 hugga stelpuna h\u00e9r a\u00f0 ofan.\u00a0 Taka utan um hana \u00ed huganum, losa um \u00f6murlega t\u00edkarspenana og vera virkilega virkilega g\u00f3\u00f0 vi\u00f0 hana. Kannski ver\u00f0ur h\u00fan l\u00edkari st\u00falkunni sem var, \u00feessari 7 \u00e1ra \u00e1 myndinni h\u00e9r til hli\u00f0ar (sem gat spila\u00f0 sig fr\u00edska). Kannski getum vi\u00f0 sameinast, t\u00fdnda barni\u00f0 og \u00e9g, b\u00e1\u00f0um til hagsb\u00f3tar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Me\u00f0an \u00e9g las gegnum Konuna \u00ed k\u00f6fl\u00f3tta st\u00f3lnum var m\u00e9r hugsa\u00f0 til \u00feess hva\u00f0 g\u00e6ti \u00e1tt vi\u00f0 mig og hva\u00f0 ekki.\u00a0 Mj\u00f6g margt \u00e1tti vi\u00f0, t.d. svissi\u00f0 \u00far klass\u00edskum verkum \u00ed poppl\u00f6g, \u00feess vegna ABBA. …<\/span> Read More …<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harpahreins.com\/blogg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}